How to avoid caring about what other people think or say about you?

Avoid caring about what other people think or say about you.

 

Often you may find ourselves thinking and worrying about what other people will think or say about you especially when you want to do something with which others may not agree and also sometimes after meeting people like our relatives or neighbors you may worry about what they must be talking about you behind your back or how they may have perceived your actions.

 

 

All of such thoughts often result in overthinking and discouragement to do something productive. But in such time try to stop and observe your thoughts become aware of what you are thinking and just ask yourself a very important question and that is "who knows me the best in the world"?.

 

 

Well it can happen that you may think "oh my best friend is the one who knows me” or "my mother knows me the most" but really is that the correct answer? Ask the same question to yourself again letting your inner voice answer you and you will receive the answer - "YOU"!

 

And since only you know yourself the best and the opinion of others about you does not really matter because they don't know you or our life journey. Those opinions can only be the reason of self-reflection that whether what they're are saying about you is right or not and you can just use it for self- awareness and self-development if you do believe what they are saying is true up to any extent.

 

For example, your boss may say that you are a brilliant employee your company have but you need to be more respectful while talking to your seniors in your company, so at this time try to take your boss opinion as a chance of noticing your own behavior with the seniors and whether are you respectful enough with them or just being quite careless or casual around them.

 

And if you believe that you need to improve yourself and become more respectful while responding or talking to your seniors than work on it. Use the opinion presented to you as an advice may be by your boss for self-improvement so that you will standout not just for the work you to for your company but as a well-mannered considerate person to your coworkers in your office and also other people in your life who are important to you such as your family and friends.

 

Ways which you can use to stop caring about other people's opinions about you:

 

Be absolutely "Okay"  with judgments.

I have realized that if you do something unfavorable to people than you get judged and also when you do something favorable then also you get judged so what is the point of caring about other people judgments.

 

 

A person helping people with food and money will get judged as some people may say that he is helping others for showing that how much wealth he has and not really to help people who are in need but the truth only he knows and may be genuinely contributing to the society and feels good serving others and helping who are in need.

 

So should he care about the judgment of those people who are thinking or saying negative about him?... Absolutely not and keep helping others serving others the best way we can and be okay with judgments because the will get judged anyways.

 

Do what you love doing.

People may give opinion about a job you should do because it is well paying and is good to do but that job you are not interested in doing so you know it is not good for you as your ambitions and interests are different and if you will do a job which you are not at all willing to do then you won't stay happy and it is obvious then that you won't be able to perform it at your best and won't succeed in it.

 

The maximum you can do is just give it a try if you are dicey about it to just to explore whether you like it or not but not because others told you to do so and if you enjoy it then only you should continue doing it and if not then don't get bothered about doing it or what others will say.

 

It is ultimately you who has to perform the tasks in that job so you must only do what you love and enjoy doing and is meaningful to you and also try to make a living out of it. Then it won't feel like work for you it will be a hobby you're getting paid for.

 

Do things which challenges you.

 

Take risk doing the things which challenges you or maybe scary to but you wanted to do it from a long time. This will boost your confidence and will make your "self-belief" stronger than ever.

 

 

You will become more aware about yourself and won't think excessively about other people's opinions and judgments who don't know you very well and are just giving their advice or opinions as just response or based upon their own beliefs or maybe doubts not knowing what you're capable. But here make sure you don't become over-confident after overcoming those challenges.

 

 

Surround yourself with inspiration, motivation and positivity.

It is very important to be surrounded by right people who encourages you and wants to see you better yourself and do well in life.

 

If for any reason you feel that there are no such people around you then you can choose to surround yourself with mentors and positive people who are positive and motivational.

They are inspiring people sharing their wisdom and you can always listen to podcast watch their videos online.

 

Think that Oprah Winfrey, Bob Proctor and so many other influential people are there who are sharing with you their experiences and knowledge and helping you to succeed in life and also as a person.

 

Think that they are your friends and you surround yourself with such friends who encourages you to be the best version of yourself. And if you don't like to be online then the best is to read books which are inspirational and full of wisdom and knowledge.

One of the best source of inspiration is “nature” itself observe nature how it works and try to be inspired by the divine power’s amazing creations!

Apply your ideas and convert your thoughts into actions.

Take action today believing yourself and do what you is right for you and for the people you care about.

When you just keep thinking and not take any action or don't do anything about the ideas you have then what happens is you tend to think a lot unnecessarily thoughts including the opinions and saying of others which may not be right for you at that present moment and stops you to do what you got to do to achieve something whether it is a big goal or a small one.

 

So put your thoughts and ideas into action before you start dwelling upon unnecessary thoughts about other people opinions.

It is better to apply those thoughts into action and see yourself it if them are right ideas for you but only do it when in your heart without any doubt you know that it is right thing to do. Use your time for better things instead of thinking about what others think about you.

Prevent regret.

Don't get into the position where later in life you may feel grateful that you didn't do something you wanted to do just because you are worried about what are the think about you or what you are doing.

Don't give up on what you are doing. 

Don’t step back from your goal just because someone may have said that you can't do it. Stick to your plan and be open minded it to look for opportunities. Make better plan if the old plan did not work the first time.

If you are absolutely sure and confident enough that you can do it then just keep going. You may take small breaks in between and stop for a while and start again but don't give up on your dreams anyway.

So these were some ways to avoid caring about what other's say. Share in comment section what is the best way you try to avoid unnecessary opinions and what is your reason to do it.